When Deep Breathing Doesn’t Calm Anxiety
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

When Deep Breathing Doesn’t Calm Anxiety

If deep breathing or meditation hasn’t helped your anxiety, you’re not alone. When the nervous system moves outside its window of tolerance, calming practices can feel impossible. This post explores why “just breathe” often doesn’t work during panic, how hyperarousal and hypoarousal shape our responses, and somatic tools that gently bring the body back into regulation. Includes a free guide to mapping your window of tolerance and practices for grounding, movement, and bodyfulness.

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Are Therapy Buzzwords Making Us Worse at Relationships?
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Are Therapy Buzzwords Making Us Worse at Relationships?

Social media has made therapy language widely accessible, helping people name feelings and understand trauma. Yet when terms like gaslighting, triggered, or boundaries become buzzwords, they lose depth. As a somatic practitioner, I see how this can disconnect us from our bodies and each other.

True healing means slowing down and noticing what’s beneath the label — the need for safety, space, or connection. When therapy language is used with care and curiosity, it can foster genuine understanding and deeper relationships.

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The Power of Pausing in Therapy
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

The Power of Pausing in Therapy

Not sure what to talk about in therapy? You’re not alone. This post explores why uncertainty can actually lead to deeper emotional insight, and how pausing, grounding, and listening to your body can reveal what truly needs attention. Learn how a mindful pause can shift you out of performing or overthinking and into more authentic, meaningful therapeutic work.

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Embodying Joy and Justice
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Embodying Joy and Justice

Somatics makes space for embodied joy . The more fully we allow ourselves to inhabit our soma, the more capacity we have for embodied solidarity—where liberation is not only imagined, but experienced in our bodies. 

Click to learn of embodied tools for cultivating both inner connections and outer community , include dance/movement therapy, meditation and community connection

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Why Feeling Good Matters: Somatic Tools for Expanding Your Capacity
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Why Feeling Good Matters: Somatic Tools for Expanding Your Capacity

Many people enter therapy wanting to “fix” something, but somatic healing focuses on widening the nervous system’s survival window so we can feel more, not less. This post explores how survival patterns form, why pleasure and positive sensations can feel overwhelming, and gentle practices that help recondition the nervous system toward flexibility, safety, and joy. Learn simple ways to reconnect with your body, build resilience, and experience nourishment—not just stress.

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Why Healing Can Hurt More Than the Trauma Itself
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Why Healing Can Hurt More Than the Trauma Itself

Trauma doesn’t just overwhelm the mind—it fragments the body. In moments of shock, our system does whatever it must to survive, but the real ache often comes later. This post explores how dissociation, freeze responses, and embodied numbness protect us in crisis, and why healing can feel more painful than the original wound. Through somatic therapy and consensual embodiment, we learn to meet sensations we once avoided and reconnect with the parts of ourselves that went offline to keep us safe.

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Why You Can’t Shame Yourself Into Change
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Why You Can’t Shame Yourself Into Change

Many people enter therapy feeling vulnerable, embarrassed, or frustrated with themselves—believing they need to “fix” something. But you can’t shame yourself into change. This post explores how radical acceptance and compassionate inquiry create the foundation for transformation. By understanding our emotions instead of criticizing them, we reduce anxiety, expand our window of tolerance, and reshape long-held patterns through somatic psychotherapy. Real, lasting change begins with compassion—not judgment.

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Somatic Listening: Awakening Your Inner Voice
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Somatic Listening: Awakening Your Inner Voice

Try this guided somatic exercise to help you reconnect with your authentic voice—the parts of you that have been quieted, dismissed, or forgotten. Through grounding, sensation awareness, and an introduction to Authentic Movement, you’ll be invited to follow your inner impulses, listen to your body’s wisdom, and explore what’s ready to be expressed.

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Nice vs. Kind: A Somatic Guide to Boundaries
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Nice vs. Kind: A Somatic Guide to Boundaries

If deep breathing or meditation hasn’t helped your anxiety, you’re not alone. When the nervous system moves outside its window of tolerance, calming practices can feel impossible. This post explores why “just breathe” often doesn’t work during panic, how hyperarousal and hypoarousal shape our responses, and somatic tools that gently bring the body back into regulation. Includes a free guide to mapping your window of tolerance and practices for grounding, movement, and bodyfulness.

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Staying Human: Interbeing, Trauma, and Collective Grief
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

Staying Human: Interbeing, Trauma, and Collective Grief

How do we stay human while witnessing genocide, collective trauma, and overwhelming suffering? This post explores how somatic responses like numbness, rage, and dissociation shape our capacity to bear witness—and how practices of interbeing, Indigenous knowledge, and grounded presence can help us move from paralysis into compassionate action. Inspired by Palestinian storyteller Jenan Matari, it invites us to reconnect with our humanity and the interconnectedness that makes justice possible.

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A Somatic Discernment Exercise: Surrender vs. Settling
Shaila Khan Shaila Khan

A Somatic Discernment Exercise: Surrender vs. Settling

Through a simple somatic practice, this post invites you to sense how your body knows the difference between yielding with honesty and shrinking to survive. By moving through surrender and settling, you’ll uncover clarity held quietly in your bones.

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